Sex before marriage has many views, from different cultures, religions, and beliefs. Some of these agree, some don't, and some don't have an opinion. What's you opinion?

Discuss, Debate, and Defend.

A lot of people at my school seem to have the whole "I wanna get laid before graduation," and yes I have had this view too, but I don't want to mess up my whole life and get a STD.

its called a condom

It's nice to know you trust your life with a piece of rubber.

i know its kinda scary it might break!

Fun for everyone amirite?

i dont see why not....

its not a crime or anything....

This is the first topic here that isn't that serious. I agrizzle with Kal. In my view, using a condom doesn't truly count as getting sexed. IT'S JUST NOT THE SAME

I personally wouldn't have sex before marriage. I believe sex is something special that should be shared between a husband and a wife only. Personally if I got married to someone and found out that they had sex with some other guys before I even knew her, I wouldn't feel the same about her. To me, it would seem like she has already committed adultery/cheated on me. Also, how would your wife feel to know that you got some girl pregnant in high school or something. People say sex before marriage is okay, but in fact it isn't. People say use a condom. To me, that is so stupid. Wouldn't you rather save yourself for someone that you will love and cherish forever? I'd rather that than have something absurd like a one night stand. To be honest, I'm a virgin and I'm proud to say it. There aren't many people like me out in the world now a days because society is telling you that sex before marriage is a cool thing to do. Personally, people who have sex before marriage mainly disgust me. Mainly because one, it's wrong to do and two, almost every relationship where someone has sex before marriage, the guy will normally leave when he finds out the girl is pregnant. How would I know? Because this happens at my school. My opinion, sex before marriage is wrong. If people are too stupid enough to not believe it, then so be it.

I don't know what the hell you guys are thinking of doing to your condoms, but they are extremely tough things. Just go for the extra thick 'extra safe' durex ones if you're paranoid. They even have spemacidal gel on them. Could even put two on at the same time, though if you did that, you wouldnt feel anything unless you were making love to a cheese grater.

Anyway, sex before marriage? I'm all for it if people are old enough AND mature enough. And by that I mean 16 or over and mature.

When our class were on a week long trip to Wales, we stopped off at a service station and in the men's bathroom were "vending machines" for condoms, some with that spermicide in them. One of my friends put some in another friend's Bacon roll while he was off buying a coke, lmao.

If two people want to have sex, who are you to stop them? As long as they are both willing and over 16, I don't care if they have sex and I wouldn't care if I were married to a woman who has had sex with someone before me.

Unlucky for me though, I'm 15, another year away.

If you want to have sex, stay safe, and use a condom. If you're without a condom, make sure you're mature enough to be prepared to deal with the situation in the events you may get the female pregnant.

If you're a virgin, trust me, when you do have sex for the first time, it won't be as good as everyone makes it out to be. And, if you're normal, you'll want to have sex all the time after your first time.

If you're wanting to wait, more power to you. But, I wouldn't go as far as saying it's disgusting to see others having sex at your age. In all truth, it's norm.

QFT

Is it normal for 14 year olds to be having sex? Just wondering. Because I'm not sure if that's normal or not .

I have heard many 14 year olds at my school say they have. But whats normal for you may not be normal for someone else, so whos to say its right or wrong

"Normal" should be at whatever the legal age in your area is. If it is underage, it is wrong. Laws are there for a reason.

Meh, some people at your school might just be lying to get attention/get popular, but i'm not sure about your school though.



Well, I don't mean like our law, I mean like younger than the age (18) like a 14 year old and another 14 year old.

Is it illegal to have sex in england under the age of 16, even if the other person is also under 16?

The tough gangster type mostly, But yeah i do think most are lying.

It is illegal, but, unless one of the participants complain, you can't be prosecuted. Although I'm only partially sure of that, it was a while ago that we did Sex Education and related things.

It is a law that is hardly ever enforced, which is a shame, really.

if two participants are of equal age and both consent, it is legal. but if the age difference is greater than a certain number (depending on country/state) then it is a different story.

Based upon my beliefs, I'm against sex before marriage. Society has trivialized sex, though, so it should technically be legal.

Imagine marrying someone and realizing they are terrible in bed.
End of conversation.

I agree with broli 110%
Virginity is something you can only give to one person.

x2.
As shallow as it is... sex is something I value in a relationship.

Thats it, you're grounded.

They say sex is like poker... you don't need a good partner as long as you have a good hand. This of course is a load of rubbish. A good woman is like a good bar, liquer in the front and poker in the rear. That means you get the poker, liquer and of course you can fall back on your hand if everything falls through. I conclude that you need a good woman first. Maybe that doesnt make sense to most people out there, but I dont care right now.

I think its best to have sex before mariage, otherwise that pent up rage and frustration is going to explode on the honeymoon and ruin everyones night. If you cant perform, then you are going to enter a whole world of hurt.

All this law this and law that should go in the bin >_>. I mean honestly. Its more of a mental maturity if anything.
Who is this government thingy to say we can have sex until we are 18? I mean honestly speaking from my point of view I want to see how many useres here actually waited for that year. I mean honestly. Who are we to put laws on something that is natural?

I consider Virginity to be nothing special or sacred, it just means that you're inexperienced.

As long as both parties consent I have no problem with it.

not fully effective

and yes imo it's fine if you both love each other

I wonder if this works for gay people because in some countries it's not allowed gay marriage.

I'm virgin and I don't have a very strong opinion about this point but I think it is ok if both are sure about what they're doing.

I don't think virginity is anything that important. Lets supose you find out your girlfriend/wife had sex with another guy before, it shouldn't change what you feel for her, and if it does it's because your feeling about her aren't so strong.

I always said I'd wait until I was married. Didn't really work out that way

If you make sure you're ready and be safe and I don't see the problem with it.

That being said...I would never consider sex as something trivial or unimportant. It's an act of love and should be treated with respect.

im 16 and im still a virgin.

I dont think theres anything wrong with having sex before marriage.
Even if it is a one night stand, if both people know its over in the morning then whats wrong with having some fun aslong as contraception is used?

When i loose my virginity it will be with someone i care about and not just anyone who is offering lol.

Personally, i'm 15, a virgin (not for long though =P) and still think that it is ok to lose your virginity at this age. Yes, it may be something you only have once, but it is more a state of mind, a tradition, something looked down upon by elders because their elders did the same. All in all, i dont think it really matters. You can also go a long way with someone before you even get to sex.

Rofl. You always make me laugh.
Anyways, I agree with most of the people here saying that it all depends on maturity. I've heard of 12 year olds doing it, as disturbing as that is.

personally i wouldnt have sex before marrage. why? two simple reasons

1. My religion (bible says so)

2. STDs r bad :A

Marriage protects you from STD's?

this is a good topic, many share my views and others don't, but I'm here to express my own views.

I for one am not religious. No I don't want to be flamed for this but this is leading up to my view and if you have something against my views please support your reply and don't just flame.

Sex, it's something that is "special" and shouldn't be looked on as: "Damn I'm a ----- ----, I'm gonna go screw!" No this is not the attitude that you want, and if you do have this attitude then you don't deserve to have sex. Anyway I believe that sex is something that you should only do if both participants agree (weather of legal age or not, of course above 14+) then they should have something special and love each other. By this I mean don't go look for a "quickie."

I go to a very large public school, and many people I know are not virgins. No I do not loose respect for them, they made a choice. However I also know people who had sex because they were ----- and this isnt right. In all terms, excuse me and this isn't meant to be crude, but if you are just ----- and want sex for all the wrong reasons, then well..... jerk off. yes I don't mean to sound crude, disgusting, or anything bad that comes to mind but its true.

I myself am in love with a wonderful girl, but this is of no concern, we still think of each other as friends and wouldn't ruin this by making a hasty decission to have intercourse. If I wanted to I could have hooked up with one of the ----s in my school.

So overall my opinon is sex is not wrong but don't do it for the wrong reasons.


!!USE A CONDOM!!

a little something for y'all:

1. condoms are quite safe, they have something like 99.7% protection from STDs if you use them properly. Problem is many people don't use them properly, so thats something you boys should learn

2. Yes, sex shouldn't be trivialized, but it should become sacred. It's just something you ought only with some1 you care about.

3. The first time shouldn't be any different from the others. Just make sure you talk to your partner and as her/him if they like it. You'll get experiance with time.

4. quick tip: don't sell your virginity that never ends up well.



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But sexing is good, so sex people. find random people in the park and sex... Remember:

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I don't hate on other people who do I just know I won't.

The best kind of protection from diseases/pregnants, is just not to do it which is what I'm doing.

You havn't lived until youve had genital warts

lmao owned

There's really no debate here. It's a matter of personal ethic. There's no way somebody can claim sex to be "immoral" in the world's view.

I agree.

But really, it's the person's/persons' decision.

Its fine for me.

I had sex. My small rubber friend protected me, but I don't believe my girlfriend has aids/std.

raymos

Action figures are not suitable protection

Sums up this topic quite nicely imo.

As disturbing as that is there's at least 4 people in my rugby team that lost theirs at that age or younger.

IMO nothing wrong with it before marriage, but if you have the patience to save it for marriage you will either be pretty damn satisfied with yourself or you would be upset and wondering if it's any different with other people and if you should have done it earlier.

Come to think of it, Zhou has come to my thoughts. Close please.

I'm 15, lost it when I was 13. But it's a different story compared to most people my age, um we've got hoes at age 10 in our district. Best part is New Hartford Central Schools are rated in the top 150 best schools via USA

Do your parents know? Seems to young to me.

Most boys hit puberty during those years. There's no safe sex age to be honest. The main consideration you should have in mind is if you're financially able to have a baby. Accidents do happen.